How relieved I am, in retrospect, that our death customs are so clearly laid out. I see others worrying about what to do with the urn of ashes, what to put in the funeral service, what music to choose, what flowers, which funeral director, what kind of coffin, whether to embalm, and am relieved I have not had to deal with all that directly. Someone dies, there is a janaza with clear roles for everyone, the body goes into the ground before the next sunset. You are then at liberty to have nightmares about someone who was recently alive now mouldering underground, but at least there is no urn left lingering on the mantelpiece.
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